First Date Playbook: Easy Plans That Feel Natural
Three low-pressure routes with exact texts to set it up. Pick one and go.
Route A — Coffee + Walk (60–90 minutes)
- Coffee at a bright café (20–30m)
- Short walk to a park or bookstore (20–30m)
- Exit or extend based on vibe
Text to set it up:
“Let’s keep it easy: cappuccinos at [cafe] then a quick walk? Wed
6:30 or Sat 1pm?”
Extend if it’s going well:
“There’s a bookstore around the corner — 15 minutes?”
Route B — Dessert First (60 minutes)
- Meet at a dessert spot (30m)
- Short seated chat at a nearby lounge (30m)
Text to set it up:
“I’m pro-dessert. Gelato at [place] then a quick lounge nearby? Thu
7 or Sun 6?”
If she’s unsure:
“15 minutes to taste test and bail with no hard feelings if it’s
not a fit.”
Route C — Casual Night Out (90 minutes)
- Meet at a lively spot with easy seating (45m)
- Walk to a second location (45m)
Text to set it up:
“Pick the playlist, I’ll pick the spot. Fri 7 or Sat 6:30?”
Polite exit if needed:
“I’ve got an early morning — let’s call it here, but this was
fun.”
Next step: Second Date Blueprint
Keep momentum and make the follow-up natural.
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