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First Date Playbook: Easy Plans That Feel Natural

Updated 2025-09-19 • 3 routes • Copy ready texts

Three low pressure routes with exact texts to set it up. Pick 1 and go.

Route A: Coffee and walk

60 to 90 minutes

  1. Coffee at a bright café (20 to 30 minutes)
  2. Short walk to a park or bookstore (20 to 30 minutes)
  3. Exit or extend based on vibe
Text to set it up:
Let us keep it easy: cappuccinos at [cafe] then a quick walk. Wed 6:30 or Sat 1?
Extend if it is going well:
There is a bookstore around the corner. 15 minutes?

Route B: Dessert first

60 minutes

  1. Meet at a dessert spot (30 minutes)
  2. Short seated chat nearby (30 minutes)
Text to set it up:
I am pro dessert. Gelato at [place] then a quick lounge nearby. Thu 7 or Sun 6?
If she is unsure:
15 minutes to taste test and bail with no hard feelings if it is not a fit.

Route C: Casual night out

90 minutes

  1. Meet at a lively spot with easy seating (45 minutes)
  2. Walk to a second location (45 minutes)
Text to set it up:
Pick the playlist, I will pick the spot. Fri 7 or Sat 6:30?
Polite exit if needed:
I have an early morning. Let us call it here, but this was fun.

Next steps

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