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Openers that get replies

Updated 2025-09-19 • 10 openers • Copy buttons included

Pick 1 opener, paste it, then follow the matching reply path. Keep it fun and respectful.

Direct plan

Two options: coffee this week or taco taste test this weekend. Which sounds more fun?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Let us do it. Wed 6:30 or Sat 1 pm?
  • If maybe: Quick question: Thu 6:30 or Sat 1 pm?

Dog line

Your dog looks like the CEO. What is her policy on park dates?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Approved. I will bring treats. Sat afternoon?
  • If slow: I am booking the board meeting for Sunday strolls.

Music and dessert

Pick the playlist and I will pick dessert. Deal?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Chocolate or fruit?
  • If maybe: Mini test. 2000s throwbacks or 90s R and B?

Dinner challenge

Best quick dinner in our city is blank. Change my mind.

Follow ups
  • If yes: Challenge accepted. Wed or Thu?
  • If slow: I will bring a tie breaker dessert.

Travel hook

Your travel pics are elite. Which trip would you relive for one day?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Let us recreate a piece of it Saturday. Coffee and pastry flight?
  • If maybe: Quick follow up: which day works better, Sat or Sun?

Coffee order

Coffee order? I am a cappuccino with a side of banana bread.

Follow ups
  • If yes: Twins. Thurs 6 pm at our local spot?
  • If slow: I will take that as surprise me.

Teach me your hobby

You plus the hobby on your profile is my jam. Beginner lesson for me this weekend?

Follow ups
  • If yes: I will trade you gelato knowledge.
  • If maybe: Quick follow up: what day are you usually free?

Pancakes or waffles

Spontaneous quiz. Pancakes or waffles?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Winner buys coffee on Saturday.
  • If slow: I will settle this with a taste test.

Story prompt

Your smile says good stories. Pick a topic. Travel fail or best concert?

Follow ups
  • If yes: You start. I will match the energy.
  • If maybe: Text me your 1 sentence version and I will match it.

Movie or cook night

We would get along. Kitchen experiment night or movie with takeout?

Follow ups
  • If yes: Fri 7 or Sun 6?
  • If slow: I owe you the best popcorn recipe.

Next steps

Tighten your profile with the Profile Photo Checklist, write a strong bio with Bio Templates by Personality, then line up your plan with the First Date Playbook.

FAQ

When should I ask her out after she replies?

Within 5 to 15 messages if the vibe is good. Keep it simple and offer 2 options for time or activity.

What do I do if she says maybe?

Reply with 1 easy next step: suggest 2 specific times or a smaller plan like coffee. Do not debate or over explain.

What if she replies slowly?

Send 1 light follow up that matches the opener tone, then stop. If she is interested, she will re engage.

Should I switch to a phone call?

Default to text. Only suggest a call if she already seems comfortable with it or asks for it.

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