An attractive, nice girl is a sensitive subject: She needs to be approached with a little finesse. Usually nice girls are the shy ones, and if you're an outgoing male with elements of style, a nice girl is probably going to put up a wall if she thinks that you're a typical male who's more interested in sex than anything else. So to get in on her, you need to come through her psychological back door.

The following technique, although scene specific, actually paints a good picture if you look at it as it applies to the whole. Bottom line, this is a technique to bring down a woman's walls.

The first time that you meet a girl (through friends or co-workers, for example) realize that you'll more than likely see her again at some point. So on this first meeting exercise some self-control and put the dog inside you in check. Control your eyes, control your posture - be professional - don't appear to be thinking of her in any way that's sexual. You're only talking to her because the two of you have mutual friends and it's the courteous thing to do. Don't spend too much time with her and don't ask for her phone number. (If she asks for yours, great.) Do remember her name and something about herself that she may have mentioned or that you picked up on.

The second meeting:

You'll score some bonus points with the girl if a period of more than a few days has gone by and you're able to remember her name. Keep in mind that this is a nice girl. What do we know about nice girls? They're usually in college or out of college, they don't drink much and they usually don't smoke, and when they were younger they may have been into reading romance novels. If you remember her name after only meeting her once, there's a good chance that she'll be mildly impressed. She's interested in a guy that can score points with her.